There are many people I know who seem to brim over with great ideas and they have the acumen & intelligence to be successful, but they lack the personal mastery to direct their emotions into getting themselves to take action. They may have a great business ideas but their fear holds them back. They may set inspiring new goals, but they basically lack the motivation to do what it takes. They may even get themselves to take action initially, but by nature stop once they experience frustration or anxiety. In this article series, you will learn how to take charge of your emotional states in order to consistently perform at your peak.The Blueprint of Success Formula (Part 2) — DiyunuwaBlog.com | දියුණුව
GUEST WRITER: Shantanu Das Sharma, author of Awaken The Incredible Within – Incredible is the New Giant, an Amazon #1 bestseller.
Success is a lousy teacher.
It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.
– Bill Gates
Okay, now that we get to understand that we all have the identical bio-hardware, the identical mental resources and it’s just a choice of our installing the appropriate programs, let us begin by treading in the footsteps of the winners, the people who produce extraordinary results… the people who have learned to direct their resources in an optimal way. If we can just model the patterns of excellence they exhibit, then certainly we can reproduce the same outstanding results they have!
Is it that simple?
Is there a formula for success?
Well, a question that I have always asked myself is this: Is there a formula for success? Do all successful individuals follow a pattern that enable them to get what they want? After studying sufficient number of role models from books, interviews and seminars, I got convinced that although many successful individuals, in all fields of their endeavours, appear to make very different decisions given similar situations and they also use very different approaches and strategies, yet all of them have something in common. And it is just this. All of them take a series of distinctive steps to get to what they want. I call these series of steps the Blueprint of Success Formula.
Moreover, it does not really matter if you want to be a whiz inventor, successful marketer or a salesperson, inspiring trainer, pioneering entrepreneur, top-notch doctor or journalist. The universal steps remain identical. And from it emerges a pattern which necessarily involves six major steps. Follow this pattern or success formula, and you will be able to achieve anything you want. Miss any of these steps, and your dreams will never become the reality that you deserve.
Step 1. Be Very Specific About Your Goal
The first step to getting what you desire is to know exactly what it is that you want.
This sounds simple and obvious enough. Yet, unfortunately, most people never seem to get what they want, simply because they are not clear with specificity about what it is they want in the first place! Most people say that they want to be successful in life, yet ask them what they want to achieve specifically and most would say, ‘I am not really sure’ or they will give vague answers such as, ‘I want to be happy’, ‘I want to have more money’, ‘I want a better job’, ’I want to have less worries‘- all of which are generic in nature and hence in reality nonspecific.
Well, know this. Unless you have a specific goal, there is nothing tangible you can focus your time and energy on. This is why most people find themselves going in all other directions, ending up nowhere.
Unless you have a specific target, you cannot develop an effective strategy to get there. The strategy required to make Rs. 200,000 is uniquely different from the strategy needed to make Rs. 20 Crores in all obvious terms.
The moment you can clarify your goals, you can see them in your mind’s-eye (it’s called creative visualization) and you will begin to have focus in your life. It will then become crystal clear to you what it is you must do to get there.
Biographies of the most successful and legendary people, again in all pursuits, show time and again that their outstanding achievements are rarely outcomes of accident or chance. They did not have success thrust onto them. Their phenomenal successes are the results of clearly defined outcomes that they had predetermined, and worked towards unwaveringly, often at a very early stage of their life.
Biographies of the most successful and legendary people in all pursuits, show that their outstanding achievements are rarely outcomes of accident or chance.
Their phenomenal successes are the results of clearly defined outcomes that they had predetermined, and worked towards unwaveringly, often at a very early stage of their life.
Rarely few successful experiences happen by chance… whether it is winning a position or a race. Most of all happen by design. Yet, the unfortunate fact is that most people do not have a plan for their lives, and hence they end up falling into somebody else’s plan. It’s only when we know what we want very specifically that we are able to focus all our talents and energy like a laser beam honing in on its target. And in moving unwaveringly towards it, we develop the resources necessary to make it happen. Wherever you are in your life right now, you must begin to set specific goals (instead of generic goals) on what you want to actually achieve in the different areas of your life. In subsequent articles we will focus on how you can design the ultimate destiny for yourself!
Step 2. Develop a Strategy
Everything is possible. It is only a question of the strategy used.
Goal >>> Strategy
The second step in the Blueprint of Success Formula is to develop a strategy that will move you towards your outcome. Again, the more specific your goal is, the easier it is to develop an appropriate strategy. You can have all the drive and energy, but without the right strategy, you will never get what you want.
By the same token, every outcome is possible, given an effective strategy.
For example, imagine yourself as the small business owner of a fruit shop that makes Rs. 10,000 in profits a month. Let’s say that you decided to set a goal of increasing profits to Rs. 15,000 a month.
Would that be possible? Probably. You could work a lot harder, raise prices, increase trading hours, sell on-line or create a loyalty program.
What if you set a goal of making Rs. 3 crores a month from your fruit business? Would it be achievable?
Most people would say, ‘Of course not, there is no way you can make that kind of money from a fruit business like that!’
True enough. Making Rs. 3 crores a month from that fruit business is impossible, if the owner continues to use the same business strategy. Yet, if he were to completely change the way he now does his small localized fruit business, would it be possible?
For instance, the strategy he could use would start by his studying how to greatly expand his market: he would write a dynamic business plan, raise capital through investments, invest in R & D to develop a superior brand of fruit (for example, Organic Certified food products are seeing phenomenal growth everywhere as people become health conscious) and widen his range of fruit (e.g. offer sun dried fruit without sulphur, candied fruit using organic sugar, pureed fruit rolls for kids), support reliable new suppliers, build a franchise system and then license thousands of business owners around the world to sell his fruit.
Would it then be possible for him to earn Rs.3 crores a month? Of course it would! With enough flexibility in our strategy, we can achieve just about anything. You still wonder how a local fruit shop can possibly expand and go global. Impossible?
Step 3. Take Consistent Action
Goal >>> Strategy >>> Action
The third step is to get yourself to take consistent action, using the strategy you have crafted. This will move you, step by step, towards your goal. Consistent action is what separates the thinkers or dreamers from the doers. Many highly educated people know what to do, they think they know how to do it, but they never do anything about it.
That is why many of them end up as professionals and consultants, working for successful entrepreneurs who had mediocre grades in school. Fine, if that’s what they want in life, there is nothing wrong as long as they are fulfilled.
But if you are not satisfied with your status quo, then DO something about it.
Do you know someone who may be less talented and intelligent than you are but is a lot more successful?
Have you ever asked yourself, ‘I know I am better than they are, but why are they so much more successful?’
Well, you may be smarter, but they take a lot more action and that is why they get a lot more results! And one of the actions they take may well mean their learning rapport/social building skills and teamwork skills, all necessary tools for any kind of success.
The third step is to get yourself to take consistent action, using the strategy you have crafted.
This will move you, step by step, towards your goal.
So why do so many intelligent people fail to take consistent action towards their goals?
Well, first understand that what drives our actions are the emotional states that we experience. Emotions like fear, inertia, anxiety and uncertainty paralyze us from taking action.
On the other hand emotions like enthusiasm, motivation and confidence excite us and get us to make things happen. The ability to direct and manage your states for peak performance is what is called Personal Mastery.
I facilitate Thought Leaders, Change Makers; Professionals & Business Owners translate NLP concepts into actions to achieve and elicit personal excellence. I conduct NLP Lifestyle Coaching Certification programs for individuals, corporate and celebrity clients. In the next article, I will reveal about ‘Neuro-Connections – The Key to Human Behavioural Patterns & Thoughts’ and after that you will come to know in the following articles, how you can utilise concepts of NLP+ in all walks of your life to replicate the success blueprint of a winner mindset. So, stay tuned every week to this series and fasten your seat belt to ‘Enhance Your Lifestyle With NLP+’
About the Author
Shantanu Das Sharma is the creator of the concept NLP Lifestyle Coaching with NLP+, founder of Neuromind Leadership Academy, India and author of an Amazon #1 Best Seller, NLP Lifestyle Master Trainer & Coach, Clean Language Facilitator & Strategic Interventionist. He is a Senior Associate Editor, ICN Group.
This article was initially published by the ICN Group under the Patterns of Excellence in Lifestyle, Enhance your Lifestyle with NLP+: Part 3
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This is a mystery to me. Last year, between May and December*, I did full day workshops for young (and not so young) women, in 12 districts around the country. The average audience was around 100.
I covered a variety of topics such as the following,on the request of my client:
- Finding your dream – What do you want in life?
- Cultivating positive attitudes
- Planning for life, defining priorities…
- Choosing a career path
- Facing an interview; writing a CV
- Are you suited for entrepreneurship?
And in the course of it, I would ask them whether they watched TV programmes on positive thinking and progressive programs that teach life skills, like the Illakkaya.
Less than five in a hundred (and more like three) will raise their hands. Then, in response I’d ask, “So you watch the tele dramas instead?” and most of the faces will sport a guilty smile! Mind you, some of these people were mothers with teens, pre teens and toddlers.
Now this is my question: why do people ignore what is so good, even when its free, and fill their lives with what is not good;or meaningless?
What actually prompted this question in my mind is the fact that I have put quite a number of positive thinking books online, in Sinhala, and the response to them is not as I expected them to be.
I put them there because I know their value. I serialize some of them, by Daya Rohana Atukorala in the Athwela Business Journal, and they are very popular. But what matters more is that the very fact that I am compelled to read a few pages every month from such books makes my life better. It lifts up my spirits by those few pages. And I am generally swimming in positive thinking all the time. Even then, those few pages, coming right in the midst of a working week for my approval make me feel good; more positive and refreshed than before.
FULFILLING RELATIONSHIPS, HAPPY MARRIAGES & SUPER KIDS…
Then take a look at Yes! You Can Do it and Yes! You Can Win (in Sinhala), both by Daya Rohana Atukorala. These are two great books. You can take my word for it because I have lived with positive thinking and psychology since I was 13 years old.
The first chapter of Yes! You Can Do it sets out six qualities that make you a psychologically well balanced person. Read and see how you fare on these aspects of:
- Self acceptance
- Purpose in life
- Environmental Mastery
- Personal growth
- Positive relationships with others and
The first chapter of Yes! You Can Win similarly sets out qualities of a positive personality.
First give these a read. And if you have loved ones who read in Sinhala, why not get them a copy? As I said right at the outset, I am not here to sell books. But, when I need to give presents, especially to young people, I buy these and similar books. I’ve given dozens and dozens in the past few years. I give them because The Power of Positive Thinking for Young People by Norman Vincent Peale that was lying about my house changed my whole life. And such a book in gift form will be a very appropriate gift indeed.
And the book on relationships by Priyanga de Zoysa is a great book for your friends, especially if they are having relationship trouble or just starting out. Or merely trying to bring the magic of a relationship back to life.
* This was originally published on my Brought to Book Blog on smallbusiness.lk which was part of the First Chapters project.