There are many people I know who seem to brim over with great ideas and they have the acumen & intelligence to be successful, but they lack the personal mastery to direct their emotions into getting themselves to take action. They may have a great business ideas but their fear holds them back. They may set inspiring new goals, but they basically lack the motivation to do what it takes. They may even get themselves to take action initially, but by nature stop once they experience frustration or anxiety. In this article series, you will learn how to take charge of your emotional states in order to consistently perform at your peak.The Blueprint of Success Formula (Part 2) — DiyunuwaBlog.com | දියුණුව
GUEST WRITER: Shantanu Das Sharma, author of Awaken The Incredible Within – Incredible is the New Giant, an Amazon #1 bestseller.
Success is a lousy teacher.
It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.
– Bill Gates
Okay, now that we get to understand that we all have the identical bio-hardware, the identical mental resources and it’s just a choice of our installing the appropriate programs, let us begin by treading in the footsteps of the winners, the people who produce extraordinary results… the people who have learned to direct their resources in an optimal way. If we can just model the patterns of excellence they exhibit, then certainly we can reproduce the same outstanding results they have!
Is it that simple?
Is there a formula for success?
Well, a question that I have always asked myself is this: Is there a formula for success? Do all successful individuals follow a pattern that enable them to get what they want? After studying sufficient number of role models from books, interviews and seminars, I got convinced that although many successful individuals, in all fields of their endeavours, appear to make very different decisions given similar situations and they also use very different approaches and strategies, yet all of them have something in common. And it is just this. All of them take a series of distinctive steps to get to what they want. I call these series of steps the Blueprint of Success Formula.
Moreover, it does not really matter if you want to be a whiz inventor, successful marketer or a salesperson, inspiring trainer, pioneering entrepreneur, top-notch doctor or journalist. The universal steps remain identical. And from it emerges a pattern which necessarily involves six major steps. Follow this pattern or success formula, and you will be able to achieve anything you want. Miss any of these steps, and your dreams will never become the reality that you deserve.
Step 1. Be Very Specific About Your Goal
The first step to getting what you desire is to know exactly what it is that you want.
This sounds simple and obvious enough. Yet, unfortunately, most people never seem to get what they want, simply because they are not clear with specificity about what it is they want in the first place! Most people say that they want to be successful in life, yet ask them what they want to achieve specifically and most would say, ‘I am not really sure’ or they will give vague answers such as, ‘I want to be happy’, ‘I want to have more money’, ‘I want a better job’, ’I want to have less worries‘- all of which are generic in nature and hence in reality nonspecific.
Well, know this. Unless you have a specific goal, there is nothing tangible you can focus your time and energy on. This is why most people find themselves going in all other directions, ending up nowhere.
Unless you have a specific target, you cannot develop an effective strategy to get there. The strategy required to make Rs. 200,000 is uniquely different from the strategy needed to make Rs. 20 Crores in all obvious terms.
The moment you can clarify your goals, you can see them in your mind’s-eye (it’s called creative visualization) and you will begin to have focus in your life. It will then become crystal clear to you what it is you must do to get there.
Biographies of the most successful and legendary people, again in all pursuits, show time and again that their outstanding achievements are rarely outcomes of accident or chance. They did not have success thrust onto them. Their phenomenal successes are the results of clearly defined outcomes that they had predetermined, and worked towards unwaveringly, often at a very early stage of their life.
Biographies of the most successful and legendary people in all pursuits, show that their outstanding achievements are rarely outcomes of accident or chance.
Their phenomenal successes are the results of clearly defined outcomes that they had predetermined, and worked towards unwaveringly, often at a very early stage of their life.
Rarely few successful experiences happen by chance… whether it is winning a position or a race. Most of all happen by design. Yet, the unfortunate fact is that most people do not have a plan for their lives, and hence they end up falling into somebody else’s plan. It’s only when we know what we want very specifically that we are able to focus all our talents and energy like a laser beam honing in on its target. And in moving unwaveringly towards it, we develop the resources necessary to make it happen. Wherever you are in your life right now, you must begin to set specific goals (instead of generic goals) on what you want to actually achieve in the different areas of your life. In subsequent articles we will focus on how you can design the ultimate destiny for yourself!
Step 2. Develop a Strategy
Everything is possible. It is only a question of the strategy used.
Goal >>> Strategy
The second step in the Blueprint of Success Formula is to develop a strategy that will move you towards your outcome. Again, the more specific your goal is, the easier it is to develop an appropriate strategy. You can have all the drive and energy, but without the right strategy, you will never get what you want.
By the same token, every outcome is possible, given an effective strategy.
For example, imagine yourself as the small business owner of a fruit shop that makes Rs. 10,000 in profits a month. Let’s say that you decided to set a goal of increasing profits to Rs. 15,000 a month.
Would that be possible? Probably. You could work a lot harder, raise prices, increase trading hours, sell on-line or create a loyalty program.
What if you set a goal of making Rs. 3 crores a month from your fruit business? Would it be achievable?
Most people would say, ‘Of course not, there is no way you can make that kind of money from a fruit business like that!’
True enough. Making Rs. 3 crores a month from that fruit business is impossible, if the owner continues to use the same business strategy. Yet, if he were to completely change the way he now does his small localized fruit business, would it be possible?
For instance, the strategy he could use would start by his studying how to greatly expand his market: he would write a dynamic business plan, raise capital through investments, invest in R & D to develop a superior brand of fruit (for example, Organic Certified food products are seeing phenomenal growth everywhere as people become health conscious) and widen his range of fruit (e.g. offer sun dried fruit without sulphur, candied fruit using organic sugar, pureed fruit rolls for kids), support reliable new suppliers, build a franchise system and then license thousands of business owners around the world to sell his fruit.
Would it then be possible for him to earn Rs.3 crores a month? Of course it would! With enough flexibility in our strategy, we can achieve just about anything. You still wonder how a local fruit shop can possibly expand and go global. Impossible?
Step 3. Take Consistent Action
Goal >>> Strategy >>> Action
The third step is to get yourself to take consistent action, using the strategy you have crafted. This will move you, step by step, towards your goal. Consistent action is what separates the thinkers or dreamers from the doers. Many highly educated people know what to do, they think they know how to do it, but they never do anything about it.
That is why many of them end up as professionals and consultants, working for successful entrepreneurs who had mediocre grades in school. Fine, if that’s what they want in life, there is nothing wrong as long as they are fulfilled.
But if you are not satisfied with your status quo, then DO something about it.
Do you know someone who may be less talented and intelligent than you are but is a lot more successful?
Have you ever asked yourself, ‘I know I am better than they are, but why are they so much more successful?’
Well, you may be smarter, but they take a lot more action and that is why they get a lot more results! And one of the actions they take may well mean their learning rapport/social building skills and teamwork skills, all necessary tools for any kind of success.
The third step is to get yourself to take consistent action, using the strategy you have crafted.
This will move you, step by step, towards your goal.
So why do so many intelligent people fail to take consistent action towards their goals?
Well, first understand that what drives our actions are the emotional states that we experience. Emotions like fear, inertia, anxiety and uncertainty paralyze us from taking action.
On the other hand emotions like enthusiasm, motivation and confidence excite us and get us to make things happen. The ability to direct and manage your states for peak performance is what is called Personal Mastery.
I facilitate Thought Leaders, Change Makers; Professionals & Business Owners translate NLP concepts into actions to achieve and elicit personal excellence. I conduct NLP Lifestyle Coaching Certification programs for individuals, corporate and celebrity clients. In the next article, I will reveal about ‘Neuro-Connections – The Key to Human Behavioural Patterns & Thoughts’ and after that you will come to know in the following articles, how you can utilise concepts of NLP+ in all walks of your life to replicate the success blueprint of a winner mindset. So, stay tuned every week to this series and fasten your seat belt to ‘Enhance Your Lifestyle With NLP+’
About the Author
Shantanu Das Sharma is the creator of the concept NLP Lifestyle Coaching with NLP+, founder of Neuromind Leadership Academy, India and author of an Amazon #1 Best Seller, NLP Lifestyle Master Trainer & Coach, Clean Language Facilitator & Strategic Interventionist. He is a Senior Associate Editor, ICN Group.
This article was initially published by the ICN Group under the Patterns of Excellence in Lifestyle, Enhance your Lifestyle with NLP+: Part 3
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GUEST WRITER: Shantanu Das Sharma, author of Awaken The Incredible Within – Incredible is the New Giant, an Amazon #1 bestseller.
Neuro connections are the key to human behavioural patterns and thoughts. Yes, you can boost up your brain power if you want to. This articles tells you what you can do to boost up your brain power.
When we have such immensely powerful internal resources, why so few produce extraordinary results? How is it that only a few in every community or country are able to produce exceptional ideas, stay motivated & focused, take action consistently and create a level of success we can only admire with a sense of awe?
The difference lies once again in the way we use our brain. Or misuse it. Or abuse it.
How Many Brain Cells Have You?
Our behaviors, thoughts, skills and abilities are determined not by the number of brain cells that we possess, but rather by how our neurons are connected together. Each of us has different neuro connections and that is the reason how and why we think and behave differently. Like, if someone you know is very good with numbers, it is just because he has a lot richer neuro-connections in the area of mathematical-logical thinking. And at the same time, this person might not be very confident in ways that he communicates, because he might have poorer neural connections in this different area of intellect.
Your Emotions and Habits
Similarly, it goes for your emotions and habits. If we are always lazy and demotivated, it is because our brain cells are wired in certain ways. It is wired in such a way that that if you are like this, then your brain cells are wired in a way that you constantly fire off negative emotions like procrastination.
Those who are always focussed and motivated have a very different set of neural patterns wired up in their brain. The type of neuro-connections you have now is set by how your brain has been stimulated and exposed, even before you were born. Your neural patterns begin developing twenty weeks from the time of conception, in your mother’s womb. If you got a gift of mathematics, it possibly could be because your brain had been exposed to lot of mathematical stimuli by your mother or people around you. Continue reading “Neuro Connections Are the Key to Boosting Your Brain Power – Here’s What You Can Do Today”
I discovered this poem in one of my father’s poetry books when I was a young teen. I am not entirely sure we were taught this at school. But it has been a huge influence in my life. I simply would not be me without it, for sure.
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
When I was a teen it irked me that it is written for a male-dominated world. But I did not hold a grudge against Kipling and just put it down to him living in a whole different world to the 20th century I grew up in where women could do and be all the things that men could and be. Well most.
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I got the text from PoemHunter.com. You can read more Rudyard Kipling poems there.
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By Malinda Seneviratne
Looking down from Hantane
night and Kandy
full of candles in silence
and the time carved mood rode
on across our skies
no pity for the collective dead
and scattered flesh on the roadside.
But our hands have been too full
of blood and entrails
to permit mourning.
No time for sadness,
we have no time for love.
Riding along our veins,
of having been born
in the sixties and early seventies.
We have had to watch the slow ceremony
of charred bodies flowing down history,
But there were eyes that once gazed on Hantane,
eyes that saw beauty and brutality;
shining eyes that had captured
the sparks of revolt,
hearts that crept into her shades
and were swept by her breeze
youth that did know love
and mothers and others who loved
Hantane, September 1989
From the collection ‘Epistles: 1984-1996’
BACKGROUND: Where is Hantane?
Hatane hills are in Kandy, Sri Lanka.
By Maironis (1862-1932)
Translated by Peter Tempest
Peaceful charm of summer nights,
Not a leaf in treetop stirs.
All is tranquil, all is quiet–
Peace that only stars disturb.
All is sleeping, all is quiet,
Dreams of love the world enfold.
Full of yearning, dreams inspired
Lull the heart, the heart console.
Summer nights of peaceful charm,
Grieving hearts with rest you lure!
Grief galore the earth endures…
Only you breathe peace and calm.
Peace and calm! With magic force
You send Nature off to sleep.
Can;t you soothe my wild desires?
What should I feel anguish for?
All the world I would embrace,
I would love Almighty God.,
Lasting Beauty I would grasp!
What an I despairing of?
From: The Amber Lyre, 18th-20th Century Lithuanian Poetry
By Stanley Moss
In fresh snow that fell on old snowI see wild roses in bloom, springtime,an orchard of apple and peach trees in bloom,lovers of different preferenceswalking naked in new snow, not shivering,no illusion, no delusion, no bluebells.Why should I live by reality that murders?I wear a coat of hope and desire.I follow fallen maple leaves abducted by the wind.I declare I am a Not Quite, almost a nonentity.I fought for that “almost.”I lift up and button my collar of hope.I simply refuse to leave the universe.I’m all the aunts in my father’s house and all my uncles too.I had fifty great-great-grand-grandmotherswho got to Paradise, like Enoch, without dying.Once my friends and I went out in deep paradise snowwith Saint Bernards and Great Pyreneesto find those lost in the blizzard that God made for Himselfbecause He prefers not seeing what happens on earth.With touch He can hear, taste, smell, see,and He has fourteen other senses there are no words for.Memory, He said, is a sense, not a power.Who am I to disagree with Him?
By Antanas Baranauskas
Translated from the Lithuanian by Peter Tempest
How fine are forest sounds, not only scents!
The forest hums, resounds with eloquence,
While midnight brings a silence that is so
Profound you hear each leaf and flower grow,
Hear tree to tree in gentle whispers call,
Each star through heaven move, each dewdrop fall.
The heart is hushed, such peace reigns everywhere
The soul soars heavenward in quiet prayer.
But when the new day dawns with gleaming brow
And blades of grass, dew-laden, earthward bow
The forest wakens, night-time silence flees
And day again resumes ts melodies.
That rustle? It’s a leaf the breeze has stirred
Or, stirring in its nest, a waking bird.
That crackling? It’s a homebound wolf who, loath
To hunt by day, breaks through the undergrowth.
A captured duck the fox bears to his lair,
A badger scurries from his burrow there,
A roe bounds past, a squirrel neatly takes
A flying leap onto a bough that shakes,
A stoat or marten rummages about…
The forest creatures are all up and out.
Who taps? A woodpecker up in a tree.
Who splutters there? An angry snipe, you see.
Who whispers? It’s an adder you hear hiss
Or it’s the river laps her banks in bliss.
Who’s talking? By the water gabbling geese.
A stork its long beak snapping without cease.
On marshes ducks are landing one by one.
The whooping hoopoe asks his wife and son:
“What-what-what-what to bring you? Speak in turn!
What-what? A grain of wheat? A fly? A worm?”
The cuckoo glancing round cuckoos for us
And laughs and chuckles, weeps and makes a fuss.
The forest rings. The oriole teases Eve:
“Eve, Eve, believe me! You this field must leave!”
The snipe call by the stream. Then in a throng
Of voices birds galore burst into song.
More calls and melodies from more throats gush:
The chiff-chaff, tomtit, siskin and the thrush,
The magpie, jay–each adding its own tune,
They laugh, lament and some play the buffoon.
The nightingale calls louder than the rest
In song full-throated, varied, full of zest,
Forever changing, ever reaching to
The heart as Lithuanian folk songs do.
Each rustling, stirring leaf too joins the surge
Of sound in which these varied voices merge
T sing a most melodious roundelay
In perfect harmony, no note astray.
The ear through not distinguishing each voice
Delights, as in far fields our eyes rejoice
When flowers in profusion intertwine
To make a single carpet woven fine.
Source: The Amber Lyre, 18th-20th Century Lithuanian Poetry
To the fish in the net
a single drop of water,
to the incarcerated
a sliver of sky,
to the guitarist
whose hands were cut off
to the heart that said ‘no’
to a love that will not return.
From: Stray Kites, a Collection of Poems, 2014
By Malinda Seneviratne
And when heart
love is a footnote
love is never foot-noted
only people are;
and footnotable people
are like necessary referents;
as mild adjunct
to a thesis about other things.
From the collection 'Some texts are made of leaves', shortlisted for the Gratiaen Award 2011
I will be the gladdest thingUnder the sun!I will touch a hundred flowersAnd not pick one.I will look at cliffs and cloudsWith quiet eyes,Watch the wind bow down the grass,And the grass rise.And when lights begin to showUp from the town,I will mark which must be mine,And then start down!